I LOVE a great Bachelorette party! What I enjoy most is getting to know all of the other girls that have been an important part of a friend’s life, as well as it makes partying at the wedding WAY more fun as you now know each other too. I’ve been a bridesmaid 6 times and of that I’ve hosted 5 bachelorette parties. All in different cities: New Orleans, NYC, LA, Santa Barbara, and the Outer Banks.
So I’ve thrown a lot of parties, with lots of girls, and LOTS of different personalities.
If you’re doing a destination – everyone will be spending lots of cash, and traveling… which puts lots of pressure on you as the host to make the weekend spectacular! So here’s what I’ve learned:
1. Give Everyone a Chance to Weigh In. Do this first thing once the venue has been selected. Has anyone been there? Do they have suggestions? Things they would like to do? Things they would like to contribute? Everyone is going to have an opinion/concern – so just get it out of the way first thing.
NOTE: A word to the wise: One or two girls will offer to help plan the party – but unless you know them – it’s probably best to politely say you have it from here, but would love their help at the actual event. It’s just easier. Trust me.
2. Ask for Money Upfront. Set the itinerary and come up with a budget for any group events. If you can do a pre-fix menu at a nice restaurant do it! It’s so much easier to handle this up front then to ask for money once the party has passed. Add up the party supplies, car, food, booze, group day outings, etc. It will make your life easier when having to pay for things and let’s everyone know what the weekend is going to cost them.
3. Stand Out! I know it seems stupid – but wearing those silly things out as a group that celebrate your friend getting married – is actually fun! I have customized it to each person I have thrown a bachelorette party for based upon their personality and our friendship. Hats, Sweatshirts, Tank Tops, Headbands, Polos. Get creative! It doesn’t need to be a tacky t-shirt. It can be as simple as everyone wearing the same color – but do something to stand out! It helps set the mood and get everyone ready to have fun!
4. Games & Lingerie & Getting Naughty. One segment of your night or weekend should involve some games and a Lingerie party (optional). One of my favorite games to play is a drinking game where you’ve asked the groom a range of questions from romantic to naughty – and the bride tries to guess his answers. If the bride is right the girls drink, and if the bride is wrong, she drinks. Another fun thing to do is have everyone buy her a little piece of Lingerie. Again – these trips get expensive so encourage the girls to go in on items together. It helps the Bride build up her wardrobe for the Honeymoon. Now – if you want another activity one of the best things I ever did was hire a woman to come and teach us a lap dance. Everyone LOVED it and it was the highlight of the evening. Pole dancing is a huge trend – you can look to instructors at local classes.
5. Hotel vs. House. There are pro’s and cons to both. Houses can be fun and allow you to cook meals at home, pre-game, have a large communal space for everyone to gather in. However, you do have to clean up after yourself, typically you have to bring your own toilet paper, paper towels, garbage bags, and bath towels – which causes you to have to waste some time at the grocery store & cleaning. Hotels are great as you have everything you need, people clean up after you and you don’t have to worry about anything. However, there is no communal space to hang out in if you don’t have a suite, and it can cause you to have to break up your group a little more. So I suggest looking at the group and think about what you, as the host, want to take care of: Are they Rowdy? Do you not want to do extra housework? If you don’t – get a hotel. Are you looking for a more relaxed weekend with friends to chill and make meals? If yes – get a house.
– Set a Bar for everyone to meet at as they arrive near your hotel/house.
– Dinner: Chose a good but casual restaurant for the first evening.
– Have something fun & relaxing planned for the afternoon
o Beach trip
o Local tour
o Pool Party
– Lingerie Party/ Games/Bachelorette paraphernalia
– Dinner at Nice Restaurant (get a private room if possible!)
– Have a starting off point to go out to in mind. (Bar/Club/Show)
– Group Breakfast
…. People Head Home